We all search for meaningful relationships that will bring a sense of peace, joy, fulfillment, support and growth. Some relationships will be blessings, others will serve as lessons. Each individual that walks into our life can be a teacher. Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you and most importantly some will inspire and bring out the best in you.
When moments are challenging, some individuals may leave. When you are down in life, you learn who your true friends are as they are present when you need them. There will be numerous individuals present when times are easy. Make a mental note of who remains in your life when times are difficult, especially the people who sacrifice the resources they have in their life to help you improve yours when you need it most. These people are your real friends/family.
Life is full of deceptive people. Sometimes the person you would take a bullet for ends up being the one behind the gun. Individuals are crafty and it is easy to believe someone when they tell you what you want to hear. Some people are only nice for their own convenience – the type of people who only call when they need something or come around when it is beneficial to them.
People can easily be insincere with their words. When someone truly loves you, they do not have to say a word. You will know by their actions. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If a person’s behavior does not match their words, their words are meaningless. The less you associate with unhealthy individuals, the more your life will improve.
Taste your own words before you spit them out. Words hurt and scar more than you think, so THINK before you speak. And remember, what you say about others also says a great deal about you as a person. Dishonesty and taking advantage of others are not mistakes. They are intentional choices and demonstrate a lack of integrity no matter how much and many times a person apologizes. Stop hiding behind the words “mistake” and “sorry” and stop putting up with those who do.
Excessive jealousy doesn’t tell someone how much you love them. It tells them how much you dislike yourself. When an individual is insecure, no amount of love, promises or proof from them will ever be enough to make you feel better. For those broken pieces you carry, are pieces you must mend for yourself. Only you can empower yourself to feel good about yourself and heal your self-worth.
When people are offensive, it is usually best to walk away and not take it personally. Never reduce your personal values and sling dirt back.
People will treat you the way you let them treat you. You cannot control others although you can control what you tolerate. You experience greater joy and peace when you distance yourself from negative and unhealthy individuals. Doing so does not mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.
One of the most difficult tasks in life is removing someone from your heart. The wrong relationships teach you the lessons that prepare you for the healthy ones. Resentment only hurts you, not them. It is similar to poison. Do not allow resentment destroy your capacity to live with a compassionate heart.
I am committed to providing the highest quality of care and maintain a deep desire to facilitate personal transformation that allows individuals to live whole-heartedly. My desire is that individuals live a life embodied with peace, joy, love, and prosperity. I hope to accomplish my purpose, which is to help you live your dream of realizing your fullest potential in a personal and meaningful manner that allows you to live the life you want.
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