The daughters of narcissistic mothers have been raised by mothers who lack the principles of mothering. These daughters are raised to care for their mothers rather than caring for their daughters. Sadly, these children and later as they become women suppress their identities to their own detriment.
Daughters of narcissistic mothers give their sense of self up in order to please their mothers and win their approval and affection. Which no matter how perfect these daughters try to be, it is never good enough. As a result, daughters of narcissistic mothers are desperately craving for their mother’s affection and love and never are able to receive it. The narcissistic mother is unable to love their children; although blames their daughter for their own personal limitations. This dynamic derails the secure mother-daughter bond and short-circuits a daughter’s ability to become an independent, confident woman. When a daughter of a narcissistic mother’s needs go unmet, she is often punished. In addition, daughters of narcissistic mothers often end up in codependent relationships repeating the relationship with their mothers.
Healing the daughter of a narcissistic mother requires developing independence and a solid sense of self. They must learn to set the boundaries denied to them in childhood. They must, in fact, learn to mother themselves, building their strength and self-confidence from the inside.
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Our Counseling Philosophy
Unlike the “medical-model” or “disease model” that the majority of mental health clinicians and medical doctors adhere to; I utilize a personal growth and brain-based model in working with clients. the personal growth model strives to remove pathology from the human condition. Psychotherapy deals with the social, mental, and emotional aspects of individuals, couples and families. Within the personal growth model, the individual is referred to as a client because the individual is perceived to have areas of strength and resources that need to be cultivated to address their areas of self-improvement and to establish new patterns of social behavior.
Operating from a personal growth model requires that therapists are client-centered and focus on client needs and utilize approaches that will result in desired change. The goal is to empower clients by teaching them skills and strategies that will allow them to have victory over their concerns and to have a meaningful existence. The objective is to teach clients to be proactive about their lives, self-sufficient and establish a healthy interdependence. It is my intention that clients leave therapy feeling confident to address their concerns because they have established a healthy mental and emotional frame of mind and have been equipped with effective life tools to cope with a challenging fast-paced technologically advanced and modernized world.