Many individuals struggle and feel guilty about saying no. For some, there is an innate desire to please or avoid conflict. Manifesting a “too nice” personality results in being disrespected and walked all over. No matter how uncomfortable, it is imperative that individuals learn to say no to negative behavior. It is unwise to take the passive approach of minimizing and enabling unacceptable or abusive behavior. Such reactions of acceptance give permission to continue the bad behavior.
Setting healthy boundaries is the only way to respect oneself, practice self-love and self-worth. People often fear setting boundaries with others who display bad behavior because they avoid the possibility of anger being directed at them or making the situation worse. They falsely believe that setting a boundary will not accomplish anything. This is where such faulty thinking is enabling. It is not healthy to tolerate rude, offensive or abusive behavior; especially when it comes to family.
It is easy to hesitate setting a boundary with family because individuals want to keep the peace. However, sweeping under the rug offensive behavior is not keeping the peace. Nor are we obligated to accept abuse from family. This perspective only continues the undesirable and damaging behavior. In addition, it protects the person who engages in the offensive behavior by not allowing them to experience and learn from consequences. This protects the person who engages in abusive behavior and repeatedly exposes others to abuse. Tolerating abuse is unhealthy and erodes people’s self-worth, self-love and self-respect.
I am committed to providing the highest quality of care and maintain a deep desire to facilitate personal transformation that allows individuals to live whole-heartedly. My desire is that individuals live a life embodied with peace, joy, love, and prosperity. I hope to accomplish my purpose, which is to help you live your dream of realizing your fullest potential in a personal and meaningful manner that allows you to live the life you want.
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